Every year when the holiday season rolls around, the expectation of “Christmas cheer” and a “holly jolly Christmas” consume every American household. To kick off the winter season, Thanksgiving is the first of the holidays; all are encouraged to reflect on everything they have to be grateful for. In theory, such a holiday should be a positive experience. Still, this time of year can be quite the opposite for those suffering from mental health issues. The constant expectation to pretend to be happy can be exhausting, especially when the reality is far from it. Seeing family members you haven’t talked to in years often opens room for invasive questions, which can cause tremendous stress on individuals who are already struggling.

Many individuals come from broken families, wherein the expectation to indulge in the “holiday spirit” is not always a reality. Seeing social media’s portrayal of the ideal American holiday can be overwhelming and cause many to feel they are missing out when such is not a possibility. The constant feeling of letting one’s family down contributes to the overall negative feelings toward the holiday season. The holiday season was once devoted to coming together as a community, showing gratitude, and putting others before oneself. However, these sentiments no longer manifest, leaving many empty during a time meant to emphasize the opposite.

Although the mental strain of the holidays can be challenging, all hope is not lost. If you know someone close to you who has struggled with their mental health, check in with them, especially during this time of year. Even check in with your friends who seem “okay,” for even the happiest appearing individuals might be struggling. Suggest bringing joy back into this time of year by indulging in simple pleasures; watching holiday movies, playing holiday board games, and looking at Christmas lights are great ways to build relationships with your friends. Baking cookies and giving them to your friends is a great way to show that you care, but a simple text goes a long way.

To anyone who struggles during the holiday season, know that many people around you care about your well-being. Although it seems like the entire world is happy except for you, the reality is quite the opposite. You are not alone, and reaching out to trusted friends or family members can go a long way during a time of need. Try watching old Christmas movies you loved as a kid to restore a sense of joy during this time of year. Take yourself on a Target date and buy comfy Christmas pajamas. Go ice-skating with a family member, or go to Asbury Park to try some new foods! The holidays can be stressful, but some good can come out of this time of year.